Introduction: Why Relationships Need Regular Tune-Ups Every relationship, no matter how strong, faces its ups and downs. Just like a car needs regular maintenance to run smoothly, relationships need nurturing to thrive. However, many couples wait until issues escalate before seeking help, often leaving them feeling overwhelmed and disconnected. The good news is that you […]
Introduction: Is Your Relationship Feeling Strained? Relationships are the cornerstone of a fulfilling life, yet they are often one of the most challenging aspects to navigate. No matter how deeply two people love each other, the pressures of daily life, miscommunication, or unresolved conflicts can strain even the strongest bonds. If you’re seeking help for […]
Listed below are 6 different ways of loving, from the “Love Attitude Scale” created by Claude and Susan Hendrick. All are valid styles that reflect different attitudes about love, and you may have more than one style. Which styles fit you the best now, and which styles fit you the best earlier in your relationship […]
There are many psychologists, counselors and therapists trained to do individual counseling. Some decide to expand their client base by branching off into offering marriage counseling or couple’s counseling. These are not normally the people you want to choose if you want help with your relationship. You want trained, licensed people who specialize in marriage […]
If you are seriously contemplating divorce, here are some questions for you to explore beforehand: Is there something you’re wanting your spouse to do (or quit doing) in order for you to stay? If so, have you clearly articulated what it is? If you haven’t, it is vital you do so, because nobody is a […]
Here are 18 signs that it is time to consider ending a relationship: You consistently don’t feel heard. You are more attached to the way you wish your partner would be rather than the way your partner actually is. You are continuously looking for your partner to change, and if things remain the way they […]
If you were to give yourself a grade for how effective, how responsive and how loving you behave in your relationship, what would that grade be? Better yet, break the above question down into smaller segments. On an A B C D F scale, using (+) or (–) to more fully adjust your grade, what […]
Dear Neil: I’ve been with a man for 21 months, but our relationship has been a constant roller coaster. He has issues with drinking, lying and keeping things from me. He has admitted to living like he was a single man while he’s been with me. Every fight he blames me for, throws a tantrum […]
Many of us have been lied to by someone we love and trust. Although there are differences in lies—some people exaggerate the truth, other people leave important information out, still other people rationalize or excuse their own misrepresentations—the end result is often broken trust. And trust turns out to be a cornerstone for virtually all […]
Dear Neil: My boyfriend and I have recently been having communication issues, and he suggested “taking a break.” What exactly does it mean to take a break? We talked about seeing other people and figuring out where each of us is headed. He also suggested we could get together in a month to talk about […]