Dear Neil: Would you discuss the issue of celibate marriage, especially where one partner is frustrated by the whole situation? Going Without in New Zealand Dear Going Without: In a marriage where one person consistently refuses or is repelled by sex with the other person, several explanations may be possible. The first possibility is that […]
What to Do if You Are Sexually Harassed
NOTE: THIS IS THE SECOND OF A TWO-PART SERIES A female bank employee is invited out to dinner by her supervisor. She is a former bank teller who has worked her way up to a position as assistant bank manager. She has resisted her boss’ sexual advances up to now. At dinner he suggests going […]
What is Sexual Harassment?
Dear Neil: Could you help us settle an office argument about what constitutes sexual harassment? We have a large difference of opinion amongst us as to where the line is drawn between flirting and actual harassment. Curious In New York City Dear Curious: Sexual harassment is not really about sex. It is about power gained […]
Blue Movies Are More Important Than I Am
Dear Neil: Years ago my husband of thirty-six years was introduced to blue movies. He has not done without them since. We are at the stage where these movies come first, and the intimacy in our relationship has all but gone. Where to from here? Christchurch, New Zealand Dear Christchurch: Perhaps you could open […]
Sharing Sexual Fantasies Can Hurt
Dear Neil: Would you address the subject of having lustful fantasies about others while being in a stable, long-term monogamous relationship? Is there a place for sexual fantasies about others in a healthy committed relationship? The two of us are divided on this subject, and my partner is upset with me, accusing me of mental […]
Infatuation With a Co-Worker Threatens Marriage
Dear Neil: I have a wonderful, considerate husband and two great kids, but excitement must be missing in my life because I think about this man at work, and can’t get him out of my mind. There is a flirty attraction between us that is hard to ignore, and I’m having fantasies about him all […]
Women Talk About Their Sexuality
How important is sex to an intimate relationship? Can a good, healthy, intimate, loving, romantic relationship between adults exist without it? Several thousand readers from around the world have written in to express their opinion about the above question. Listen as women—and next week men—talk about the importance of sex to their relationship and to […]
Impotence Can be Treated
Dear Neil: About a year ago I began having problems in getting an erection. Also, while making love, I have begun to go soft. I went to a doctor who gave me some medicine, but it didn’t help. He told me that I may have to have some tests done. What would you suggest? Lexington, […]
Women Talk About “Fabulous Foreplay”
A couple of months ago, I printed a letter from Trudy L., from Christchurch, New Zealand. She said that men in general- and me in particular—didn’t have a clue about how women viewed romance and desire, and preceded to define it as “fabulous foreplay” when men take responsibility for domestic chores. I responded by saying […]
Asexual
Dear Neil: I’m a 37 year-old virgin heterosexual woman who has never had interest in sex or other genital activity. What few relationships I’ve had consisted of hugging, snuggling and kissing—all from the waist up. I don’t feel like I’m missing anything. In fact, intercourse repulses me. My doctor says I’m anatomically normal. I’ve never […]