Dear Neil: Some people decide to not have sex with their spouse. So why do these same people get upset when their husband or wife has sex with someone else? Not Sure I Understand Dear Not Sure: Some people have negative associations with sex. Although they desire to be married, they don’t desire sex, or […]
The Fear of Being Close is Actually a Fear of Being Rejected
Dear Neil: In my current five-year relationship, my lady has run away and come back to me numerous times, and she has had an affair on me as well. Sometimes when she runs away, I hear nothing for a few weeks. It appears she could care less about the pain all of this causes me—being […]
Cell Phone Addiction Can Threaten a Relationship
Dear Neil: As soon as my girlfriend and I got in bed last night, she was on her phone for over an hour. I was trying to be affectionate. “In a minute. I’m on Snapchat.” Then it was “I’m on Facebook.” In the end, I rolled over and went to sleep. I feel like I’m […]
My Husband Says He is No Longer in Love With Me. What Can I Do?
Dear Neil: I would like to know whether my husband is having a midlife crisis. He keeps saying he loves me but is not in love with me anymore, and that I am not the person he married. Can you help? Lost in Sacramento Dear Lost: It sounds like your husband is saying he no […]
How Do I Help My Lady Get Over Her Past?
Dear Neil: I have been in an on again-off again relationship with this beautiful lady since this last Christmas. She and I are close when we are together, and her kids absolutely adore me. But she was in an abusive relationship with the kids’ father. Now when she and I are close, she finds the […]
Does Having Different Family Values Mean We Shouldn’t Get Married?
Dear Neil: I have been engaged for 5 months, but we haven’t set a date, mostly because I am afraid of moving forward. My fiancé and I have been dating over 3 years. He and I come from different backgrounds and have different traditions and family values. My family celebrates birthdays, religious holidays and loves […]
The Most Common Ways People Disconnect From Each Other
There are so many ways of detaching and disengaging in a relationship that we’re not always conscious of when we are doing it. Here is a list of some of the most common ways people disconnect from each other: Making your intimate partner a lower priority in your life. If you do this, your partner […]
If You Cannot Trust, You Cannot Love
Dear Neil: I have been living with my girlfriend for over 2 years. I am a faithful man and have never had an affair, but my girlfriend doesn’t trust me. I have sacrificed my friends, time with my family and job opportunities because she could not trust me. Basically, she doesn’t trust me when I […]
How Do I Keep Loving Someone Who Does Not Love Me?
Dear Neil: My husband doesn’t say that being at home with me and our children is what stands in the way of his happiness, but it’s obvious that he feels that we are interfering with his ability of having a much more successful musical career. It’s clear he doesn’t feel the same about me anymore, […]
If You Don’t Know Where Your Boyfriend Stands, Ask Him
Dear Neil: I’m in a year and a half relationship with a guy from Saudi Arabia. We are both professionals, but he is 26 and never married, and I am 37, divorced and I have 2 kids. Because we are Muslims, our relationship is not allowed, and his parents don’t know about us at all. […]