“How do you know if a man is interested in you, or just your body?” asked a 35 year old patient of mine recently during her therapy session. “I seem to have this problem a lot. A man expresses interest in me, ‘chases’ me, invites me out to interesting places, tells me he is growing […]
Unfaithful
There are several types of affairs people engage in, and not all infidelities are the same. Serial affairs consist of a series of one night stands and/or a series of brief affairs, says Rona Subotnik and Gloria Harris in their book Surviving Infidelity. Intimacy and commitment are missing in such affairs. Sex and excitement are […]
Adultery: Surviving Infidelity
“Last month I came home from a business trip earlier than expected, and walked in on my wife making love with another man,” writes a reader from Montreal, Canada. “I cannot describe the thoughts and feelings that have emerged for me since. I feel hurt and betrayed. I feel angry. I have contemplated suicide. I’ve […]
Dishonesty and Trust
“I often catch John in little ‘white lies.’ His lies are often about stupid things and really amount to nothing, but it really bothers me that he would feel the need to lie to me rather than tell the truth,” writes a woman from Aurora, Colorado. “He is not an accomplished liar, and eventually the truth […]
Sexual Attraction
“My husband is of a stocky build which I thought was okay when we married. However, after 17 years and another 50-60 pounds, I find him totally unattractive,” writes Sharon R. of Denver. “I still love him, but the feelings seem purely platonic. This problem has progressed to the point that in order to enjoy […]
Desires
Get a group of all women (or all men) sitting around and talking about the subject of what you would like the opposite sex to do differently, or what puzzles you about their behavior and how you would like it changed, and you would have the potential to spend many long hours in deep conversation. […]
Men vs. Women
In case anyone didn’t know, men and women speak different languages. Occasionally, the differences generate anger. The following letters from readers will illustrate some of the areas of tension between the sexes. “Mainly, [men] just don’t make an effort,” writes Sandra S. from Milwaukee. “I am so tired of helping men to grow emotionally. They […]
Rekindling Love
Falling Out of Love “Three years ago, [my husband] became depressed, and criticized our home, our life; everything was wrong,” writes an anonymous woman from Christchurch, New Zealand. “I kept quiet but became hurt and resentful. I felt used and unloved. I have heard enough of comments such as ‘grow a brain,’ ‘you’re full of […]
Measuring Your Love Life
What is your sex life like? How do you feel about sex and your own sexual health and well-being? Some surprising, interesting and revealing findings have recently come out about people’s sexual attitudes, values and practices. According to the recently published Janis Report on Sexual Behavior, did you know that: Men 65 and older are […]
Defeating Jealousy
What is your reaction to the following situations: Your intimate partner spends increasingly more time in outside activities and hobbies in which you are not included. Your partner comments to you on how attractive another person is. At a party, your partner dances with someone you do not know. Someone flirts with your partner. Your […]