Dear Neil: I am a 29-year-old man who has never had a serious relationship. Expressing my feelings for other people has never been one of my strong points. About six months ago, I became very good friends with a woman I work with. She is 42 and divorced, with two teenage children. She divorced four […]
More Women Talk About “Fabulous Foreplay”
Dear Readers: I have received so many letters from women regarding the issue of what they consider to be “fabulous foreplay,” that I have decided to reprint more letters on this subject. I appreciate seeing ANY man attempt to address the issue of a “woman’s definition of fabulous foreplay.” I attend evening college classes. If […]
Women Talk About “Fabulous Foreplay”
A couple of months ago, I printed a letter from Trudy L., from Christchurch, New Zealand. She said that men in general- and me in particular—didn’t have a clue about how women viewed romance and desire, and preceded to define it as “fabulous foreplay” when men take responsibility for domestic chores. I responded by saying […]
Power Struggles
Dear Neil: A month after our 23rd anniversary, I found out my husband had been having an affair. In June when the AmEx bill came in and HER name was on it for airfare, that was the last straw. For months I cried and begged and tried to reason. He was silent and cold. He […]
Keeping Yourself Emotionally Detached
Dear Neil: I’ve been married for 17 years to a wonderful man. Last summer I discovered that my husband had had a secret E-mail correspondence for the last two years with his old girlfriend. She had left my husband 23 years ago, after they had a one year relationship. I believe that with work and […]
Could I be Addicted to My Ex-Husband?
Dear Neil: My second husband and I divorced four years ago. But during that four years, we have been on again, off again. We come back together (much to our family’s dismay) for about 45 days. Then things begin to unravel.. I don’t like his attitude, he doesn’t like mine. I don’t know how else […]
Reasons for Infidelity
Why Was Husband Unfaithful? Dear Neil: My husband of thirty-one years has been having an affair. He was seen by a neighbor at a society function when he was supposed to be at a business conference, so when I confronted him with the information I had, he acknowledged he was seeing another woman. This is […]
Asexual
Dear Neil: I’m a 37 year-old virgin heterosexual woman who has never had interest in sex or other genital activity. What few relationships I’ve had consisted of hugging, snuggling and kissing—all from the waist up. I don’t feel like I’m missing anything. In fact, intercourse repulses me. My doctor says I’m anatomically normal. I’ve never […]
Too Close for Comfort
Dear Neil: The two year relationship I had with my girlfriend ended a few months ago. While at college, we were best friends and lovers. But after graduation, she decided to move back to her home town. It was then she began withdrawing emotionally and cutting herself off from me. She held all of her […]
A Sexual Guide for the Very Experienced
NOTE: THIS IS THE SECOND OF A TWO PART SERIES Especially if you have been married for a long period of time—or if you’ve been in many relationships through the years—this column is designed as a primer on how to keep the sexual spark alive and vital. Sex doesn’t stay vital in a long-range relationship […]