Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by Arthur’s youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer […]
Dear Neil: My boyfriend and I have been together over three years. During a break in our relationship, I had a one-night stand. I told him about it, and now he is very jealous because he didn’t get the opportunity that I did. We are now back together, but he still talks about the desire […]
Dear Neil: Women claim to want a man who is open-hearted and comfortable with intimacy—a man who can show his more vulnerable emotions. But when I have offered my heart and vulnerability to a woman, I have most frequently been judged, rejected or dumped. In my most recent relationship, I not only gave her my […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. The irony of power is that both genders see themselves as powerless in exactly the area in which the other gender sees them as powerful. A woman sees the inadequacy of her breasts next to “ideal” breasts. Advertisements bombarding her with the ideal weight, derriere, hair […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Dear Neil: I am an attractive, successful, affluent woman in my forties, and I am having a hard time finding men who I might consider marrying. Why is there such a Great Man Shortage? Where are all the good men? Puzzled in Estes Park, Colorado Dear […]
Dear Neil: Since reading your column concerning rules for male partners that appeared in print awhile back, I would like to know if you could print a set of rules for female partners? HopefulJakarta, Indonesia Dear Hopeful: Actually the list of rules is almost the same for women and for men. But since I have […]
But He Needs to be Careful to Not Overdo It Note: This is the third of a three-part series. More often than not, work defines a man’s worth to himself and to the world. To work means you’re a man, and frequently a man’s work is his pride. Work gives meaning to men’s lives. If […]
EDITOR’S NOTE: THIS IS THE SECOND OF A THREE-PART SERIES The way men love and what they need in a relationship are different and often the opposite of what women need. Because of their conditioning, many men have learned to suppress and deny their vulnerability and personal needs in order to perform, compete, achieve and […]
EDITOR’S NOTE: THIS IS FIRST OF A THREE-PART SERIES. Does this man sound familiar? “John” is educated, affluent and successful. He is admired by his co-workers and has a stringent work ethic. He works well over 40 hours a week and frequently works on weekends. His wife is angry with him and often feels lonely […]
Dear Neil: I would like to see you address the issue of sharing household responsibilities in two-earner households. My husband and I have been married for 16 years. Except for a couple of years I took off when our kids were born, we have both worked full time. In all that time, my husband has […]