Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Dear Neil: I’ve been married for eight years and have two children. While my husband was never a very demonstrative person in terms of passion or romance, over the past four years I’ve seen our passion go from a low score to almost zero. Sex […]
Withdrawal and Disconnection
Feeling a bit disengaged or withdrawn in your relationship recently? Don’t feel badly. Most people do. Everyone—no matter how close or intimate, and no matter how much you may love each other—sometimes feels disconnected from the people they love and are devoted to. Let’s face it: living with someone—or being around someone a lot—can really […]
Woman Puzzled by Boyfriend’s Withdrawl
Dear Neil: I recently started seeing someone, and things were great. We talked to each other three times a week and saw each other twice a week. But over the last two weeks he has become detached and removed, and has seldom called. I have found evidence of him sleeping with someone else. What should […]
Living Parallel Lives
Have you ever wondered how committed couples begin to fall apart? Typically one person gets preoccupied at work, or with the kids, or with day-to-day living or with worries. The other person gradually notices the partner/spouse/lover is more preoccupied and less emotionally present, and unconsciously adjusts his/her own emotional presence to match. This is subtle […]
Don’t Settle For Poor Treatment From Husband
Escalating The Emotions in Your Marriage Dear Neil: My husband thinks that once every month or two is often enough for sex. He told me he was “getting older” (mid-40’s) and that it was normal for a man to lose interest at that age. I found out quite by accident that he hasn’t lost interest, […]
Rekindling Love
Falling Out of Love “Three years ago, [my husband] became depressed, and criticized our home, our life; everything was wrong,” writes an anonymous woman from Christchurch, New Zealand. “I kept quiet but became hurt and resentful. I felt used and unloved. I have heard enough of comments such as ‘grow a brain,’ ‘you’re full of […]