Dear Neil: Last year things began to change drastically in my three and a half year relationship. We had made plans to get married when suddenly he stopped treating me with the respect he always had, he was angry, blamed me for things, told me he needed time to himself to sort things out, rented […]
Why Can’t I Commit To My Boyfriend?
Dear Neil: I am 23 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for three years. I have grown to realize that he is a wonderful guy with all the great qualities you’d want, and he treats me very well. He’s the kind of guy you could settle down with and marry. The problem is […]
The Hamlet Syndrome Revisited: Overcoming Ambivalence
It is, in my judgment, the most pervasive reason why relationships don’t get off the ground. Or why they get sabotaged even though they appear to have hope and promise. It’s why relationships that start off with so much closeness and passion gradually grow stale, distant and cold. It is called ambivalence. Ambivalence is about […]
Ambivalence: The Hamlet Syndrome
Dear Neil: I’m hoping you can help me figure out what I’m doing wrong in my romantic relationships. I meet a nice man, we date several times, he starts to make intimations of getting closer, and I freak out and end our relationship. I then meet another man. We date a few times, I find […]