Dear Neil: I recently wrote to you saying my husband is having an emotional affair. You advised me in the paper to explore why our relationship has grown distant, and what we could do to rekindle the spark between us. But my husband no longer wants to try. He says we can’t recapture what we […]
When Somebody Leaves But Fails To Tell You
Dear Neil: I am at the end of my rope. I have been with my wife for almost 15 years (married for three years). Several years ago she cheated on me. She denied it but I found out that she was lying. I went overseas to work, she started the affair again and added another […]
Do People Who Are Adopted Have Trouble Loving?
Dear Neil: I have been with my boyfriend for two years. We just broke up because he is adopted and he has issues loving someone. I don’t know what to say to him to convince him that I love him and I’m not going anywhere. I could care less that he’s adopted but he can’t […]
My Boyfriend’s Rejection is Confusing
Dear Neil: I’ve been in a relationship with someone for three years. My boyfriend says that I don’t deserve to be with someone who is so up and down with his feelings. He says he loves me and is in love with me, but can’t stay because he doesn’t deserve me. He still wants me […]
How Do I Get My Boyfriend Back?
Dear Neil: I am 26 years-old and for the first time in my life I have felt true love with another. But he has broken up with me and left me an emotional and financial train wreck of a mess. The problem is that he compared me to his ex, and accused me of doing […]
What Can You Do if Someone Says They Want to Break Up?
Dear Neil: I have been in the most wonderful, loving relationship for the past two years. We connected shortly after her marriage dissolved. I have never been so much in love or so happy. I respect her, I adore her and I cherish her beyond belief. The bond and connection we made was amazing. But […]
Can My Boyfriend Overcome Commitment Phobia?
Dear Neil: I am in a new relationship—four weeks long only. I am female, 34, separated, very attractive and I have a good job. A month ago I got to chatting with a gorgeous man at a bar. He swept me off my feet, and it took one date before we were absolutely obsessed with […]
Why Are Men Not Romantically Interested in Me?
Dear Neil: I am 32 years-old and I have never been married—and I haven’t had a real long-term relationship in nine years. Guys I date tell me I’m like one of the guys because I like watching sports and don’t mind just hanging out with friends. They tell me that any man would be lucky […]
Why Did Woman Reject Open-Hearted Man?
Dear Neil: Women claim to want a man who is open-hearted and comfortable with intimacy—a man who can show his more vulnerable emotions. But when I have offered my heart and vulnerability to a woman, I have most frequently been judged, rejected or dumped. In my most recent relationship, I not only gave her my […]
How Do I Heal Losing My Husband?
Dear Neil: After losing my husband of 28 years, I started dating again eleven months later. The gentleman and I got close, he asked me to marry him, and I said yes. Then I went into grieving for my husband. It’s as if there was a physical drive to get together, but my heart put […]