Dear Neil: What in the world do available men have against suitable, nice, full figured women? Several months ago, in a large northeastern city, I placed an ad in the personals of a popular newspaper that has a large circulation among professional men. I described myself perfectly—I included the adjectives pretty, charming, bright, vivacious, and […]
Why Would a Bimbo Try to Destroy my Family?
Dear Neil: (Recently) my husband confessed that he’d been having an affair the past nine months with a married woman. She has (also) confessed that she planned to get this affair going because she wanted a new husband. We have decided that after 38 years together—four grown, well-educated and decent children—six grandchildren and a […]
Me or My Body?
“How do you know if a man is interested in you, or just your body?” asked a 35 year old patient of mine recently during her therapy session. “I seem to have this problem a lot. A man expresses interest in me, ‘chases’ me, invites me out to interesting places, tells me he is growing […]
Woman Puzzled by Men Not Calling Back
“I’m 39, attractive, nice body—I’m told—friendly, helpful, yet when I find someone and we go out, the night ends with the usual line, ‘I’ll call you,’ and they never do,” writes an anonymous woman from Denver. “Then I rehash the night’s events in my mind: was I overbearing, too independent, etc. I have a good […]
Older Women/Younger Men Relationships
“I am a 48 year old woman. I have a very satisfying, loving relationship with a 35 year old man,” writes an anonymous woman from rural Colorado. “[We] have recently been discussing marriage, but I am concerned about a long term commitment. Have you any direct knowledge of the success of such relationships?” There is […]
Single Moms
Dear Neil: I’d like to suggest some don’ts for men who date single moms. Don’t expect her to have you over to her home early in the relationship. She is concerned about her children’s emotions and doesn’t want to expose them to everyone she dates. If you’re the right one, she’ll include you in that […]