For many women, being single is not a chosen lifestyle, but a deeply painful and disappointing experience. Some have suffered through a social drought so severe that they feel they are going to dry up and blow away. Some have had several dysfunctional relationships, often including marriage and divorce. “Why am I still alone?” they […]
Finding That Special Someone Can Be Difficult
Dear Neil: In the last two years, I have been on exactly two dates. It isn’t from lack of trying. I’ve tried the bar scene, personal ads, dating services of all types, and I have encouraged friends to fix me up, but to no avail. I’ve tried aerobics classes, cooking classes, night school, and other […]
Survival Rules for Single Middle-Aged Women
Dear Neil: The following is what I’d call a survival guide for middle-aged women in search of a date. In younger years we could date men of all ages, while the boys were pretty much stuck with girls their own age or younger. The rules are different now, and we have to accept it. Take […]
Where Do I Meet Women?
Man Finds it Difficult to Find a Mate Dear Neil: I am a 32 year old single professional male, both handsome and physically fit. I have a thirst for knowledge and adventure. My interests are varied and include aerobics, movies, the arts, traveling, sports and dining out. Where does an upwardly mobile man meet his […]
Overweight and Lonely
What’s A Middle Aged Woman To Do Dear Neil: I am a middle aged female, professional and good-looking. I am a lot of fun and have a variety of interests. Middle age has caught up with me also, so I am a few pounds overweight, but not obese. What I have found is that since […]
Heavy Set Woman Wonders How to Find a Mate
Dear Neil: What in the world do available men have against suitable, nice, full figured women? Several months ago, in a large northeastern city, I placed an ad in the personals of a popular newspaper that has a large circulation among professional men. I described myself perfectly—I included the adjectives pretty, charming, bright, vivacious, and […]
Why Would a Bimbo Try to Destroy my Family?
Dear Neil: (Recently) my husband confessed that he’d been having an affair the past nine months with a married woman. She has (also) confessed that she planned to get this affair going because she wanted a new husband. We have decided that after 38 years together—four grown, well-educated and decent children—six grandchildren and a […]
Me or My Body?
“How do you know if a man is interested in you, or just your body?” asked a 35 year old patient of mine recently during her therapy session. “I seem to have this problem a lot. A man expresses interest in me, ‘chases’ me, invites me out to interesting places, tells me he is growing […]
Woman Puzzled by Men Not Calling Back
“I’m 39, attractive, nice body—I’m told—friendly, helpful, yet when I find someone and we go out, the night ends with the usual line, ‘I’ll call you,’ and they never do,” writes an anonymous woman from Denver. “Then I rehash the night’s events in my mind: was I overbearing, too independent, etc. I have a good […]
Older Women/Younger Men Relationships
“I am a 48 year old woman. I have a very satisfying, loving relationship with a 35 year old man,” writes an anonymous woman from rural Colorado. “[We] have recently been discussing marriage, but I am concerned about a long term commitment. Have you any direct knowledge of the success of such relationships?” There is […]