Dear Neil: Could you address the subject of forgiveness? Although I know what it means to forgive, I’m baffled by how to do it. My wife abruptly dumped me for another guy, and I feel extremely hurt, rejected and humiliated. I really cared about her, supported her, was good to her and I loved her, […]
What do you regret? Have you ever told others “I have no regrets. I would do everything the same if I had it to do all over again?” If so, you answer the question the way lots of people do. But you’re not answering the question honestly. Nobody—and I mean nobody—gets through life without words […]
Dear Neil: I have been married for 10 months. I have a wonderful husband who takes great care of me and my son. He is a very nice guy, and I am a very spoiled lady. Sometimes I feel like I have the perfect life with a man who is my best friend. But I […]
When was the last time you took a class attempting to learn something you’ve never explored before? Or the last time you experimented with a brand new recipe? When did you last go dancing, pick up a musical instrument, play tennis or learn a new card game? Want to know why you’re in a rut? […]
Anytime we go through a genuine crisis, our intimate relationships with other people—your spouse or sweetheart, children, family and friends—are affected. Whether those relationships help us through the crisis, or instead go down in flames depends on a host of factors, most of which are within our control. People in crisis find it difficult to […]
The recent articles printed in these pages about trauma and how people recover have generated dozens of readers writing in to share their stories of loss and their search for recovery. Some people are dealing with the loss of their home in one of the recent devastating fires, some may be injured—or have lost a […]
Let me invite you to think of the last time you filed your income tax returns. Did you write off your car repair as a business expense? Did your beach trip or your trip to Europe suddenly become a work-related conference? Did you claim that some of the alcohol you bought was really for a […]
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two It has been almost 17 years since my house burned to the ground, destroying everything I owned. The trauma, so vivid when it occurred—and it remained vivid for years—has faded into a more distant memory. Whatever I lost has been replaced, […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one It’s the end and the beginning. It’s the end of the year, and it’s the beginning of a new year, and all of us have a choice: we can look backwards and dwell on the triumphs and tragedies, the victories and […]
Do you sometimes feel completely defeated? Perhaps you feel that things are outrageously hard and you’d like to just give up, or perhaps you feel it’s just too hard to (choose one): find a love relationship with someone you’re attracted to and who is attracted back, get along, like the person you’re married or committed […]