Letting Go of the Past If you are afraid of closeness or intimacy, who are you going to pick to be in a relationship with? You’re going to pick someone who is impossible to get close to, someone who is unemotional, non-communicative, or who is emotionally withdrawn and distant. They may be tuned in to […]
Understanding Your Past
How Your Past Affects Your Intimate Relationships You are likely still seeking as an adult the needs you had when you were growing up that did not get met by your parents. Intimacy is the realm in which we work out our unresolved or unmet childhood needs. The unmet needs, hurts or unresolved issues from […]
The Past
“I come from a very troubled childhood. [I had] a father who drank heavily and who terrorized my mother and myself on an almost daily basis. He once held a loaded gun to my mom’s head,” writes a woman from Christchurch, New Zealand. “Perhaps even as a baby I knew I wasn’t wanted, and that […]