Are you trapped in the treadmill of always striving for more? More love, more money, more clothes, better car, nicer house, nicer furniture, more recognition, more appreciation, more validation? More respect? Not that you shouldn’t strive for being the best and having the best, mind you, but have you noticed what such striving does to […]
Aging Well
Feeling older? Most of us do, although it’s obvious that some people are aging better than others. Aging well is not a secret. It’s a series of steps anyone can take. It’s about making sure that the various aspects of your life (health, your relationships with others, inner peace, future goals, gratitude, having fun, etc.) […]
18 Ways to Have a Great New Year
The following are rules to live by if you desire a happy, more fulfilled life. Honor these suggestions and your New Year will be a lot happier and more satisfying: Any love, when it is ignored, not given a high enough priority or when it is treated poorly—deteriorates. Be an active participant in your intimate […]
Cleaning Up Your Attitude
Do you have an attitude? Do you go about your day sour, out of sorts, angry or irritated a fair amount of the time? Are you sharp, cutting or sarcastic? Burned out, tired or quick to the trigger a lot? Willing to believe the worst about others? Mistrusting or cynical? Are you often resentful, argumentative, […]
Lessons Life Teaches Us
Here are some of the unspoken lessons our lives and intimate relationships teach us when we have the presence of mind to pay attention: Despite what most people may believe, men fall in love faster than women do. Why? Men, on the whole, fall for the visual, whereas women are more focused on the whole […]
The Other 5 Commandments
Did you hear the joke about Moses descending Mount Sinai? Carrying heavy stone tablets down the mountain was arduous, and balancing them was very difficult for him. When he reached the bottom he said to the awaiting crowd, “My fellow Hebrews. I have with me these three tablets with these fifteen…oops.” One of the stone […]
Why Am I Jaded?
Discovering Your Wounded Idealist Dear Neil: I seem to have developed a jaded, cynical and sarcastic way about me, and I have been told by others that I come across negatively. I can see this behavior in myself. For some reason I have become judgmental and critical—of other people and of myself—and I have developed […]
To Not Feel So Depressed Learn How to “Pivot”
Dear Neil: I was recently rejected by a woman I was hoping to marry, and I am really hurting badly. I tried so very hard in the relationship, gave it so much, was so loving, romantic, generous, patient, forgiving and accommodating, but I was still rejected. I still want a relationship, and I still want […]
“Secrets” to Enjoying Life
NOTE: THIS IS THE SECOND OF A TWO-PART SERIES We all know that becoming older is supposed to be our time for harvesting, for reaping the rewards of our lives. But for many of us who have plowed and sown seed, we are not very good at the harvesting part. We have to get past […]
What Stops Us From Feeling Happy More of the Time?
Note: this is the first of a two-part series. When was the last time you can remember walking around with a smile on your face, a laugh in your belly, at lightness in your heart and a sense of exuberance at the sheer wonder of being alive? There is so much that seems to be […]