Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Underneath all our differences, men and women both want the same things: to be loved, cared for, respected, appreciated and desired. To have a place of safety and security where we can be ourselves, and where we can grow and mature. And we all […]
A Grown-Ups Guide to Romance
In case you need a refresher about how to romance the man/woman in your life, here are a variety of romantic suggestions. Tell your mate that you—love, adore, admire, cherish, desire, want, need, prize, esteem, idolize, revere, treasure—him/her. Plan a “mystery date” for next month. Plan sexy surprises. Shower together by candlelight. Change one bad […]
Intimacy Skills (Part 2)
Essential Skills that Intimate Relationships Require of Us Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one This is a continuation of the skills required in order to keep a relationship close and romantic over time: Taking an active interest in the other person. Being interested in his/her feelings, thoughts, […]
Essential Intimacy Skills
Over the course of my career, I have come across thousands of stories about intimate relationships that have gone wrong. About a parent who drops out of a child’s life, about children rejecting their parents, about spouses or lovers who turn mean—or who reject or betray each other—about siblings having a falling out and never […]
Romancing Your Valentine: A Collection of Romantic Gestures
In preparation for Valentine’s day, here are a collection of romantic ideas, seductive gestures, caring attitudes and loving behaviors, taken from Cindi Haynes and Dale Edwards in their book: 2,002 Romantic Ideas (Adams Media Publishers). When shopping for gifts, think extra-special, romantic, unique to your partner’s tastes, nonpractical, tasteful and meaningful. Kiss goodnight. Kiss goodnight […]
When Partner is Hostile, say “Talk to Me Like Someone You Love”
The problem is familiar to most of us. Whether it originates from tension, stress, problems at work, problems with a child, disagreements, arguments, money worries, health concerns or any number of other reasons, sometimes you and your intimate partner get angry with each other, and tempers between the two of you flare. It can be […]
Sexual “Secrets” Every Woman Should Know (Part 2)
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one If you ask a room full of grown women what they think about men and sex, you are likely to get an earful. At various times, you will likely hear them complain about men and their sexual behaviors and attitudes. You […]
Sexual “Secrets” Every Woman Should Know (Part 1)
Note: This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Dear Neil: Some time ago you wrote a very impressive article entitled “Secrets Every Man Should Know.” I still have a copy in my possession. In it was advice you offered men about how to be effective in their relationships with […]
Growing Apart? Here’s what you can do
Dear Neil: Over the past two years my husband has been growing away from me. He says it’s me just being emotional, but he doesn’t touch/cuddle me anymore, and he is no longer interested in how I feel. I don’t think that we will last much longer. Do you have any advice? No Longer Close […]
He wants to be closer; fiancée pushes away.
Dear Neil: As a follow-up to your recent columns on how to deepen a new relationship, what would you advise if my fiancée and I have a sharp divergence of style or an important difference of opinion? I grew up in a caring and loving household, and I crave greater levels of closeness, intimacy and […]