Choosing a Relationship Therapist How To Choose a Good Marriage Counselor or Relationship Therapist There are many counselors and therapists trained to do individual counseling. Some decide to expand their client base by branching off into offering marriage counseling or couple’s counseling. These are not the people you want to choose if you want help […]
Last December, my wife Roni and I were on a research ship. We stayed for 18 days in a tiny 8 by 10 foot twin room on the vessel—in bunkbeds—in order for us to be in Antarctica, South Georgia Island and The Falkland Islands. But staying in very close quarters with someone, even someone you […]
Love involves looking at someone subjectively instead of objectively. It asks of me to give my heart to another regardless of whether that person has earned it. In fact, I become willing to overlook the negatives about someone in order to be smitten. I give my heart because I want to be attached to that […]
I’ve heard it easily a thousand times from couples I’ve treated in marriage counseling. “We have a hard time communicating,” “We don’t communicate well,” “We get in an argument when we talk,” and a hundred other variations of that theme. The question is why. What happens to couples that once communicated well with each other, […]
Note: This is an update of a column I wrote 25 years ago. It still feels just as relevant and essential today. One skill stands out above all others if you want the closest relationship possible. If you are a man, it would be wise for you to adopt the attitude that you will never […]
Every troubled relationship gives warning signs that things are going poorly. A spouse or partner will act discontent, or they will become resentful, angry, distant or withdrawn. Pay close attention to these signs; they need to be addressed immediately. You can do that by asking questions about how your partner is feeling about you and […]
Dear Neil: When we wake up in the morning, the first thing my girlfriend does is get on her phone, and she’s gone for an hour or two. At nighttime when we get into bed, she spends 2-3 hours checking Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat. She doesn’t say a word to me while she does this. […]
Here are some of the most common reasons why people have a hard time finding or keeping a love relationship: You’re too focused on work, your children, sports or your routines. This means that you may not be carving out enough time and energy in order to focus on searching for a love relationship, or […]
Dear Neil: No matter how a man treats you in marriage, if you are a woman you are always expected to allow him access to your body. Even when he calls you insulting names, mocks your sexual history, graphically describes your sex life to other men, is verbally abusive or makes sex painful, bad or […]
Think you know how your spouse or intimate partner feels about your sexual relationship? If so, have you checked out whether your assumptions are accurate? If you’re like most of us, you probably have not had a recent conversation with your partner about sex and how each of you are feeling about it. So here […]