Escalating The Emotions in Your Marriage Dear Neil: My husband thinks that once every month or two is often enough for sex. He told me he was “getting older” (mid-40’s) and that it was normal for a man to lose interest at that age. I found out quite by accident that he hasn’t lost interest, […]
Survival Rules for Single Middle-Aged Women
Dear Neil: The following is what I’d call a survival guide for middle-aged women in search of a date. In younger years we could date men of all ages, while the boys were pretty much stuck with girls their own age or younger. The rules are different now, and we have to accept it. Take […]
Problems Men Have With Women
A Primer for Women Money, poor communication, children, infidelity, control and sexual incompatibility are the top issues that cause men the most conflict and turmoil in their intimate relationships with women. The men around the world who read this column, and who have written in have talked about their relationships with women. This is what […]
Where Do I Meet Women?
Man Finds it Difficult to Find a Mate Dear Neil: I am a 32 year old single professional male, both handsome and physically fit. I have a thirst for knowledge and adventure. My interests are varied and include aerobics, movies, the arts, traveling, sports and dining out. Where does an upwardly mobile man meet his […]
Understanding Your Father
Dear Neil: My childhood was made a misery by a violent father with a terrible temper. He never showed me any love, warmth or interest. He never spoke to me as a human being. Now that I am a grown women, I cannot relax around him or even look him in the eye, because I […]
Overweight and Lonely
What’s A Middle Aged Woman To Do Dear Neil: I am a middle aged female, professional and good-looking. I am a lot of fun and have a variety of interests. Middle age has caught up with me also, so I am a few pounds overweight, but not obese. What I have found is that since […]
Doing Without
Being Chaste and Married is No Fun Dear Neil: My husband and I haven’t had sex for six years now. We have been married for twenty two years, and he began to lose interest in sex two or three years after we got married. I am an attractive women and being rejected sexually has been […]
What Makes Love Last?
What Happy Couples Do That The Rest of Us Don’t What is the difference between happy and unhappy couples? What do happy couples do to make their love last longer? What secrets do happily married people know that the rest of us haven’t figured out yet? “There are couples who remain deeply in love for […]
Overcoming Emotional Distance
Being More Emotionally Open and Available Dear Neil: I would appreciate very much if you would offer some recommendations on how I could overcome being emotionally distant. Distant in Oceanside, California Dear Distant: Here are several ideas: Examine your feelings about not feeling worthy of a close relationship; your fears that if your partner really gets […]
Betrayal and Integrity: Surviving The Lost of Trust
Dear Neil: I’ve been married for just about a year. Through that year, my husband has had an affair. He has denied the entire thing, but there is just too much evidence. In a two year span, I have gone through a divorce (married twelve years), met my current husband, got pregnant by him, and […]