Most men and women find that erotic words and voice tone are important ingredients in their arousal. Called “verbal foreplay” by Bonnie Gabriel in the book The Fine Art of Erotic Talk (Bantam Books), she says words are wonderful aphrodisiacs. “Through words, you can stimulate the pleasure centers in your partner’s mind so they send shivers […]
Women Talk About “Fabulous Foreplay”
A couple of months ago, I printed a letter from Trudy L., from Christchurch, New Zealand. She said that men in general- and me in particular—didn’t have a clue about how women viewed romance and desire, and preceded to define it as “fabulous foreplay” when men take responsibility for domestic chores. I responded by saying […]
Power Struggles
Dear Neil: A month after our 23rd anniversary, I found out my husband had been having an affair. In June when the AmEx bill came in and HER name was on it for airfare, that was the last straw. For months I cried and begged and tried to reason. He was silent and cold. He […]
Keeping Yourself Emotionally Detached
Dear Neil: I’ve been married for 17 years to a wonderful man. Last summer I discovered that my husband had had a secret E-mail correspondence for the last two years with his old girlfriend. She had left my husband 23 years ago, after they had a one year relationship. I believe that with work and […]
Creating an A+ Relationship
A Valentine Week Primer on How to Have The Best Intimate Relationship You Possibly Can A+ relationship. Noun. 1. The best intimate relationship you can possibly create. 2. A loving monogamous relationship that is excellent, superior, awesome, exciting, passionate, growing, fulfilling, fascinating and romantic. 3. An act of creation involving two individuals—two artists whose lifework […]
What Grade Would You Give Your Relationship?
Everyone wants to be in love, stay in love, and live a fun, passionate, fulfilling and meaningful life. We begin our relationships full of hope. We begin our marriages by vowing our best. We all feel that our relationships are special, different and unique. And they are. So says Gregory J. P. Godek in the […]
Could I be Addicted to My Ex-Husband?
Dear Neil: My second husband and I divorced four years ago. But during that four years, we have been on again, off again. We come back together (much to our family’s dismay) for about 45 days. Then things begin to unravel.. I don’t like his attitude, he doesn’t like mine. I don’t know how else […]
Reasons for Infidelity
Why Was Husband Unfaithful? Dear Neil: My husband of thirty-one years has been having an affair. He was seen by a neighbor at a society function when he was supposed to be at a business conference, so when I confronted him with the information I had, he acknowledged he was seeing another woman. This is […]
Asexual
Dear Neil: I’m a 37 year-old virgin heterosexual woman who has never had interest in sex or other genital activity. What few relationships I’ve had consisted of hugging, snuggling and kissing—all from the waist up. I don’t feel like I’m missing anything. In fact, intercourse repulses me. My doctor says I’m anatomically normal. I’ve never […]
Ways to be More Romantic
More recommendations on romance taken from the book 1001 Ways to Be Romantic by Gregory J.P. Godek. First the basics: flowers; chocolate; greeting cards (store bought); greeting cards (home-made); jewelry; teddy bears; lingerie; love poems; love songs and love coupons. Additional basics include love letters, sending flowers to the office, breakfast in bed, weekend get-aways and walks […]