Jealousy can be a normal and appropriate emotion. Humans naturally mate, and they naturally guard their partnership through the mechanism of jealousy. Jealousy develops as we sense that our partner is no longer as closely connected to us as we’d like. It may signal that something else—or someone else—has come between us and is loosening […]
Jealousy
Dear Neil: My husband of 12 years is very jealous. Whenever I try and go out with my friends, he becomes upset and causes a fight. I usually come home when I say I will, and I do not come inebriated or such. On one or two occasions something unforeseen happened and I came home […]
Man Cares About a Woman Who Doesn’t Care Back
Dear Neil: I am a 29-year-old man who has never had a serious relationship. Expressing my feelings for other people has never been one of my strong points. About six months ago, I became very good friends with a woman I work with. She is 42 and divorced, with two teenage children. She divorced four […]
More Women Talk About “Fabulous Foreplay”
Dear Readers: I have received so many letters from women regarding the issue of what they consider to be “fabulous foreplay,” that I have decided to reprint more letters on this subject. I appreciate seeing ANY man attempt to address the issue of a “woman’s definition of fabulous foreplay.” I attend evening college classes. If […]
Erotic Talk Adds Spice to Your Relationship
Erotic talk, called “verbal foreplay” by Bonnie Gabriel in the book The Fine Art Of Erotic Talk (Bantam Books), is about talking in sensuous ways that generate passion between you and your lover. Here are some Gabriel suggests that you can add erotic talk to spice up your intimate relationship: Learn the art of “erotic subtext.” […]
The Fine Art of Erotic Talk
Most men and women find that erotic words and voice tone are important ingredients in their arousal. Called “verbal foreplay” by Bonnie Gabriel in the book The Fine Art of Erotic Talk (Bantam Books), she says words are wonderful aphrodisiacs. “Through words, you can stimulate the pleasure centers in your partner’s mind so they send shivers […]
Women Talk About “Fabulous Foreplay”
A couple of months ago, I printed a letter from Trudy L., from Christchurch, New Zealand. She said that men in general- and me in particular—didn’t have a clue about how women viewed romance and desire, and preceded to define it as “fabulous foreplay” when men take responsibility for domestic chores. I responded by saying […]
Power Struggles
Dear Neil: A month after our 23rd anniversary, I found out my husband had been having an affair. In June when the AmEx bill came in and HER name was on it for airfare, that was the last straw. For months I cried and begged and tried to reason. He was silent and cold. He […]
Keeping Yourself Emotionally Detached
Dear Neil: I’ve been married for 17 years to a wonderful man. Last summer I discovered that my husband had had a secret E-mail correspondence for the last two years with his old girlfriend. She had left my husband 23 years ago, after they had a one year relationship. I believe that with work and […]
Creating an A+ Relationship
A Valentine Week Primer on How to Have The Best Intimate Relationship You Possibly Can A+ relationship. Noun. 1. The best intimate relationship you can possibly create. 2. A loving monogamous relationship that is excellent, superior, awesome, exciting, passionate, growing, fulfilling, fascinating and romantic. 3. An act of creation involving two individuals—two artists whose lifework […]