Let’s say you are Bill Clinton, and you wish to repair the relationship and regain the trust back from your wife Hillary, after you have publicly acknowledged that you have been unfaithful to her. For anyone who has been—or is currently in—this situation, this is what I would advise the person in Bill’s position (the […]
Repairing a Betrayal
Many people come to marriage therapists because of a betrayal or an infidelity. The recent admission by U.S. President Bill Clinton that he has been unfaithful to his wife is a scene similar to those played out in marriage therapist’s offices everywhere. But how do you repair a betrayal? How does a woman in the […]
Avoiding Conflict Will Not Fix Your Relationship
s…and is a poor way of resolving differences In a fight or argument, what is your fight style? Does one of you run from conflict, refuse to talk about a disagreement, withdraw, cry, shut down or emotionally disappear in the face of conflict? If so, you fit the description of “conflict avoidant.” Regardless as to […]
Men Doing Chores a Turn On To Women?
‘No’ Says Man Dear Neil: You printed several letters from women who seemed to be attesting that the men in their lives would receive sexual favors if the men would simply do household chores. Those women might believe what they say, and they might even respond as they said they would—in the beginning. But I […]
Jealousy Keeps a Relationship From Being Voluntary
Jealousy is an emotion that keeps you from falling out of love, while at the same time it keeps you from feeling love. It keeps you emotionally bound to and dependent upon the person you love. In the range of human emotions, jealousy strikes primal. Cain, son of Adam in the Bible, slew his brother […]
Jealousy is a Complex Emotion
Jealousy can be a normal and appropriate emotion. Humans naturally mate, and they naturally guard their partnership through the mechanism of jealousy. Jealousy develops as we sense that our partner is no longer as closely connected to us as we’d like. It may signal that something else—or someone else—has come between us and is loosening […]
Jealousy
Dear Neil: My husband of 12 years is very jealous. Whenever I try and go out with my friends, he becomes upset and causes a fight. I usually come home when I say I will, and I do not come inebriated or such. On one or two occasions something unforeseen happened and I came home […]
Man Cares About a Woman Who Doesn’t Care Back
Dear Neil: I am a 29-year-old man who has never had a serious relationship. Expressing my feelings for other people has never been one of my strong points. About six months ago, I became very good friends with a woman I work with. She is 42 and divorced, with two teenage children. She divorced four […]
More Women Talk About “Fabulous Foreplay”
Dear Readers: I have received so many letters from women regarding the issue of what they consider to be “fabulous foreplay,” that I have decided to reprint more letters on this subject. I appreciate seeing ANY man attempt to address the issue of a “woman’s definition of fabulous foreplay.” I attend evening college classes. If […]
Erotic Talk Adds Spice to Your Relationship
Erotic talk, called “verbal foreplay” by Bonnie Gabriel in the book The Fine Art Of Erotic Talk (Bantam Books), is about talking in sensuous ways that generate passion between you and your lover. Here are some Gabriel suggests that you can add erotic talk to spice up your intimate relationship: Learn the art of “erotic subtext.” […]