Dear Neil: My mother and I have never been close. I had to fend for myself as I was growing up and never got care and comfort from her on an emotional level. She has the beginning of dementia, as well as physical problems. She requires a lot of watching over and supervision, and I […]
Expressing Love and Appreciation to Your Valentine
When was the last time you told your Valentine how valued s/he was? How special? What you appreciate and how much you appreciate him or her? In honor of Valentine’s Day, here is an exercise if you’d like to correct that oversight—and infuse your relationship with renewed appreciation and gratitude. Select from the following list […]
Valentine Lessons in Being the Best You Can Be
Following is a list of Valentine suggestions for how to be the very best partner, spouse, lover and/or mate you can be. Don’t use lame excuses to avoid doing your very best in your intimate relationship, such as “I don’t have the time or the energy.” If your mate doesn’t rank up there with your […]
Traits of Happy Couples
Creating The Best Relationship You Can What can you do to create the best relationship possible? A close, intimate, happy, heartful, soulful, romantic, connected, affectionate and passionate relationship? I am talking about creating—not simply having—the best relationship possible, because while falling in love just happens, staying in love never happens by itself. We begin our […]
Outrageously Romantic Ideas to Keep Your Relationship Sizzling
What does sizzling romance consist of? Romance is about attempting to connect and stay connected to someone else. If you are a true romantic, you define yourself as a “lover” regardless of other roles; you’re in touch with your feelings; you pursue new and different experiences and you make your intimate relationship a top priority […]
Strategies For Meeting Strangers
You’re at the grocery store checkout, waiting in line C, when you spot a vibrant brunette waiting in line A. You’d love to meet her, but how? You’re at the tenant’s association meeting and you see someone who is hot, hot, hot. Is he married? Living with or involved with someone? Do you ask him, […]
Love Will Not Work With a “Guarded Heart”
Dear Neil: Exactly what is love? I have been hurt several times in the past in my relationships with men, so in my most recent relationship I kept myself safe and a bit withdrawn. But he rejected me, saying I was too guarded. I guess I don’t know what love is, and I don’t know […]
Signs Your Mate is Cheating on You
Some months ago I printed in this space a list of ways to tell if your mate is being unfaithful to you. Here are some additional telltale signs of possible infidelity not covered in my previous column: Your mate often comes home late, is frequently having vehicle troubles or has frequent unexplained absences. Your mate […]
Telltale Signs Your Mate is Cheating on You
Some months ago I printed in this space a list of ways to tell if your mate is being unfaithful to you. Here are some additional telltale signs of possible infidelity not covered in my previous column: Your mate often comes home late, is frequently having vehicle troubles or has frequent unexplained absences. Your mate […]
Evaluating Whether Someone is Right For Me
Dear Neil: I am recently divorced and back on the market looking for a woman to give my heart to. But after two divorces, I am wondering if there are any ways of evaluating someone before I get emotionally invested with her. Are there ways to tell whether two people will be compatible with each […]