Do you interrupt people a lot? Do loved ones complain that you chime in by cutting them off in conversation? All of us cut into a conversation sometimes, and some interruptions can be helpful or clarifying. You may have an important correction to make, you may have information to add that the other person doesn’t […]
It’s 9 a.m. and I’m on a deadline to get my column written and sent to the newspaper. I am researching a new topic, and it’s very time consuming. During my research the phone rings and I get tied up in a 40-minute call. Getting back to my column, a news alert comes in on […]
Here are some of the most common reasons why people have a hard time finding or keeping a love relationship: You’re too focused on work, your children, sports or your routines. This means that you may not be carving out enough time and energy in order to focus on searching for a love relationship, or […]
There are many psychologists, counselors and therapists trained to do individual counseling. Some decide to expand their client base by branching off into offering marriage counseling or couple’s counseling. These are not normally the people you want to choose if you want help with your relationship. You want trained, licensed people who specialize in marriage […]
Dear Neil: No matter how a man treats you in marriage, if you are a woman you are always expected to allow him access to your body. Even when he calls you insulting names, mocks your sexual history, graphically describes your sex life to other men, is verbally abusive or makes sex painful, bad or […]
Dear Neil: I feel sad and empty. I was never loved as a child, and I do not have the bonds I should have had. The non-existence of love in my family and the coldness has just made me numb, and I feel numb all the time. I am also a cancer survivor. I fear […]
Dear Neil: I am a 6-year widow dating a 4-year widower. We both had long-term marriages. We have been dating for 18 months and have been talking about moving into a rental together. But his house is like a museum to his deceased wife; every corner and shelf is filled with her knickknacks and collections. […]
Think you know how your spouse or intimate partner feels about your sexual relationship? If so, have you checked out whether your assumptions are accurate? If you’re like most of us, you probably have not had a recent conversation with your partner about sex and how each of you are feeling about it. So here […]
Some things we do not have control over. Regarding longevity, we don’t control our genetics, our medical predispositions, our birth gender, ethnicity, and often our socioeconomic status. But there are a variety of factors we can control. The National Institute of Aging estimates that 70% of factors that determine how long we live are within […]
Note: This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one Love appears to require much less effort in the beginning of a relationship than it does as the relationship matures. Over time, it is so easy to become distant, disconnected or upset with each other—and that’s precisely what people frequently come […]