Dear Neil: I’m desperate to salvage my relationship. We’ve been in an on again/off again relationship for the last 6 years. We have three children, and one on the way. We both have full time jobs. While I tend to the children, cook dinner, clean, do laundry, help with homework—his job takes priority over everything, […]
Dear Neil: The man who I love broke up with me after a 4 year romance. Now, months later, he wants us to rekindle our relationship, but he has not suggested marriage. I’m in my 30’s and I’m wanting to start a family—and I’m unwilling to be strung along forever. Do you have any suggestions […]
Whether you are approaching age 50, 60, 80 or beyond, growing older requires us to deal with loss in one form or another. Many people face the prospect of living on less money as they grow older, their body parts have more limitations (and some have simply worn out), and you are likely to experience […]
Dear Neil: Looking over the multitude of postings I have made on social media the last 10 years, I began noticing a pattern. My husband and I lived in a huge house with every luxury available. We had nice vehicles and lots of money. Life was good, and the pictures I posted on social media […]
Dear Neil: I believe the key to running away from someone you want is interesting. I grew up in an abusive home. My mom called the police, and my dad had to move out. I asked my dad if I could go too, but he said no. It felt normal for me to witness and […]
This is the second of a two-part series. Click here for part one Dear Neil: I have recently declined opportunities to spend time with my father, and I told him that it was because he has been acting very entitled, and is therefore not a very enjoyable person to be around. I wasn’t rude, but […]
This is the first of a two-part series. Click here for part two Dear Neil: I have an adult stepson who is 37. He and his wife have 3 kids (6, 5 and 3). Since I retired in 2012 they assumed that I would be their on-call babysitter. One day he brought his daughter over […]
Focus on the qualities you admire and appreciate in your partner, and speak them. There’s a reason you chose him or her. What did you see in the beginning of the relationship that was so appealing, and what do you see now in your spouse/partner that is attractive, positive and good? Make it a point […]
Interested in improving your relationship this Valentines? Take turns answering the following questions, and assume there will be multiple answers to every question. Make sure both of you get an equal chance to address each question. Take an interest in how your Valentine actually feels, and what he or she thinks would improve your relationship. […]
Resilience is about bouncing back from failure, defeat or disappointment, and learning how to make the most of your setbacks or losses. Here are 8 things emotionally resilient people do differently that the rest of us can learn from. If you wish to be more emotionally resilient, hold yourself accountable to: Rise to the challenge. […]