Is Your Marriage in Trouble? Don’t Give Up Yet.

A Private 2–5 Day Marriage Intensive for Couples Who Need More Than Weekly Therapy

If your marriage is breaking down, you may not have months to wait for things to get better.

Perhaps you’re having the same painful arguments over and over. Maybe one or both of you has withdrawn, or trust has been broken. It could be that an affair has devastated your relationship. Perhaps you’ve grown distant and stopped feeling like you’re part of a couple. Maybe one of you is wondering whether it’s time to leave.

Before you decide your marriage/relationship is over, give yourselves the opportunity to find out whether it can be repaired.

Come to Colorado for a completely private 2–5 day marriage intensive with Neil Rosenthal, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. There are no other couples that will be present. For 5–6 hours each day, the focus is exclusively on the two of you and the problems threatening your relationship.

Talk With Neil — Complimentary Consultation

Call (720) 331-5564.

When you call, you won’t speak with an intake person or salesperson. You’ll speak directly with me

There May Still Be a Way Back to Each Other

When couples come to see me, many are not experiencing ordinary relationship problems.

They are in real trouble.

Some are considering separation or divorce. Some have already separated. Others have become so angry, resentful or emotionally distant that they no longer know how to reach each other.

And many tell me:

“We love each other, but we don’t know how to fix this.”

That is precisely what the intensive is designed for.

My goal isn’t simply to help you talk about your problems. We will work intensively to understand what has gone wrong, address the unresolved issues keeping you stuck, and help you develop the skills to create a healthier and more connected relationship.

This retreat may be appropriate for you if:

  • You are afraid your marriage may end.
  • You keep having the same arguments without resolving anything.
  • Anger, resentment, criticism, defensiveness or withdrawal have taken over your relationship.
  • An affair or other betrayal has destroyed trust.
  • One or both of you have emotionally withdrawn.
  • You’ve tried couples therapy before but remain stuck.
  • One of you isn’t certain whether you want to remain married.
  • You still care about each other but don’t know how to repair the damage.

If you recognize yourselves here, I encourage you to call me before you give up. Call me today at (720) 331-5564 for a complimentary phone consultation.

Neil Rosenthal

Why an Intensive Instead of Weekly Marriage Counseling?

When a relationship is seriously distressed, one 50-minute appointment each week may simply not give you enough time.

Just when you begin getting to the heart of an important issue, the session is over. Then another week passes. Life intervenes. Emotions change. New arguments occur. At the next appointment, you may spend much of your time talking about what happened during the week rather than resolving the deeper problems.

A marriage intensive is different.

We have 5–6 hours a day for several consecutive days to stay with the important issues.

That gives us time to:

  • Understand the destructive patterns between you.
  • Get beneath anger and defensiveness to the real feelings and injuries underneath.
  • Work through conflicts that have remained unresolved for months or years.
  • Address the impact of a betrayal.
  • Learn how to communicate without attacking, blaming or withdrawing.
  • Practice resolving disagreements while I am there to guide you.
  • Begin rebuilding trust and emotional safety.
  • Restore affection, connection and intimacy.
  • Create concrete agreements about what needs to change.

And importantly, I teach you what we are doing so you can continue using these skills after the retreat is over.

The objective is to give the two of you the ability to handle your relationship differently yourselves.

What does it cost?

You get your choice of either 2, 3, 4 or 5 days. If you are wanting to renew your love or strengthen your relationship, come for 2 or 3 days. If your relationship is in serious trouble, I generally recommend 3–5 days, depending upon the complexity of the issues and the amount of work you hope to accomplish.

  • Two 6-hour days: $4,800
  • Three 5-hour days: $6,000
  • Three 6-hour days: $7,200
  • Four 5-hour days: $8,000
  • Four 6-hour days: $9,600
  • Five 5-hour days: $10,000
  • Five 6-hour days: $12,000

If you’re unsure how many days and/or hours you need, I will be happy to offer you a recommendation once I learn a little bit about your relationship.

Call me today at (720) 331-5564 for a complimentary phone consultation.

What Will We Actually Do During Our Retreat?

Every couple is different, so your intensive will be designed around the particular problems in your relationship.

But our work generally follows a progression.

First, we figure out what has happened to the two of you.

We identify the patterns that repeatedly derail your relationship—and the unresolved injuries underneath them.

Then we change the way you communicate.

You will learn and practice ways of talking about difficult subjects without escalating into attack, defensiveness, blame or withdrawal.

The goal is not simply to “communicate better.”

It is to help each of you feel heard, understood and emotionally safe enough to talk openly.

Click here for a more detailed schedule for activities that are often included in the retreat.

Then we go after the unresolved issues.

That may mean addressing resentment, anger, sexual disconnection, family conflicts, emotional withdrawal, recurring disagreements, broken promises, or a serious breach of trust.

Then we begin rebuilding what has been lost:

Such as friendship, affection, trust, tenderness, romance, intimacy and the feeling that the two of you are on the same team again.

Finally, I want you to leave Colorado knowing not only what changed during the retreat, but how to continue that change when you go home.

Can a Marriage This Troubled Really Recover?

Many of the couples who come to me are already in serious distress.

When I have followed up with couples after their retreat, more than 90% of those distressed couples were still together two years later.

That doesn’t mean I can guarantee that your marriage will survive. No ethical therapist can promise that.

What it does tell you is that being in serious trouble does not necessarily mean your relationship is beyond repair.

What If One of Us Isn’t Sure About Staying Married?

This is more common than you might imagine.

I want to help the two of you understand what happened to your relationship, determine what might still be repairable, and experience what the relationship feels like when you begin interacting differently.

Then you can make important decisions from a clearer place.

Why Work With Neil Rosenthal?

Choosing someone to help you with a marriage in crisis is an enormously important decision.

Neil Rosenthal is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who has 46 years of clinical experience helping individuals and couples with relationship problems.

His relationship advice has appeared in newspapers around the world, and he is the author of the nationwide #1 bestselling relationship book Love, Sex and Staying Warm: Creating a Vital Relationship.

But perhaps the most important difference is this:

When you come here, you work with me.

From the beginning to the end, I work directly with the two of you. Your retreat is private, confidential and designed specifically around your relationship.

Each person will also receive a free copy of my bestselling book: Love, Sex and Staying Warm.

Couples Therapy Intensives

This is not a marriage workshop or group retreat. You will be the only couple I work with during your intensive. There are no groups, shared exercises, or other couples present. The work is private and tailored specifically to your relationship.

Master instruction in effective relationship skills and/or how to repair your relationship. Learn more about my experience and qualifications →

Research shows the techniques are effective

The techniques I use from Imago Therapy have been scientifically shown to be effective. You don’t want to leave your relationship to chance.

What if we’re not married?

This is equally effective for non-married couples or same sex couples.

Not sure if a marriage retreat is right for you?

Call me for a complimentary consultation:

(720) 331-5564

  • We were separated, and I had filed for divorce, but we put the divorce on hold so we could attend Neil Rosenthal’s marriage counseling retreat in Colorado. We both considered this our one last final hope. If this didn’t work, we were not going to stay together.

    We don’t fight like many other couples do. Our house just turned cold. We quit sharing feelings with each other. Then we quit hugging or kissing in the mornings and evenings—or in bed. Soon we would be on our devices when in the same room with each other. Eventually we just grew very far apart. There was no fight, but we were no longer a close couple. So I moved out.

    When Neil first asked us why we were there and what we were hoping to achieve, I was unable to answer. I was not sure if I wanted to reinvest in the relationship and open myself up again. But through the course of the long weekend, we reunited as a couple. The turning point was when Neil gave us an exercise in creating a vision of our future, and that’s when I realized that I really want this woman and this relationship.

    This was priceless to me. There will be no divorce. Thank you Neil.

  • I was afraid we were going to divorce.

    We had an ongoing trust issue related to my husband’s infidelity. Nothing we tried succeeded in repairing us, and the issue dragged on forever. We were a broken couple, fighting a lot, and our fights could get ugly. As a last ditched effort, we signed up for a 3-day marriage retreat with Neil Rosenthal, whose book we both found very useful.

    The first thing we learned was to talk and listen effectively. Beyond doubt that was the most valuable thing of all. My husband finally heard how hurt and fearful I was, and with Neil’s help he was able to empathize with my pain, which allowed me to finally begin to let go of the grievances I had been carrying around for months.

    We are back on track. Healing takes time, but our marriage has finally stabilized. I can’t thank Neil enough for the highly skilled way he got us to reconnect.

  • I was resistant to opening up to someone I had never met.

    I have always been a private person, and the idea of opening up to a stranger was hard for me to accept. But Neil was easy to talk with, and our time flew by quickly as we did a variety of communication and intimacy enhancing exercises.

    We are now better at addressing an issue when we don’t agree with each other, or where she feels one way and I feel another way. Perhaps the most valuable was being able to talk respectfully and civilly with each other after years of not being able to.

    And best of all, my wife and I are making love again, after 2+ years of enduring the cold silent treatment. I would highly recommend Neil Rosenthal to any struggling couple who hasn’t been able to fix things on their own.

  • I had called off our engagement because my fiancé didn’t want sex as often as I did. I told her if we don’t make love more often, there will be no wedding.

    Turns out, we had an underlying problem of not being able to effectively talk about and resolve important issues. We didn’t have the right skill set. But Neil taught us how to work through disagreements rather seamlessly. Better yet, he taught us his method and gave us a handout about the different steps involved, so we could do the advanced skills at home. (Hint—it’s in his book.)

    Neil was very direct with us, and easy to talk with. We went right after the problem, and we solved it. Then he led us to strengthen our connection so we could be closer. Problem solved.

  • First of all, Thank you.

    There is a True, mutual desire to be the couple we once were, and so much more. We both feel a loss that you are not a permanent part of our lives. For you to have had such a profound role in our healing, and your kind ability to draw out the path to our healing, has not only opened the door to our love, but given us both a great appreciation for the love you showed us. We are newly committed to a lifetime of understanding, growth, and love.

    With sincere love and thanks from Alaska.