Is your marriage in trouble? Are you struggling or in crisis–or are you having trouble getting over an infidelity?Does it seem like you can’t stop the cycle of anger, blame, arguments and withdrawal?

Or perhaps your relationship has grown stale, and you’ve lost that sense of vitality and affection.

Take The 5 Minute Marriage/Couples Rescue Assessment
Answer the following questions from 1=no to 4=yes.
(Take this assessment yourself, then ask your spouse to take it)
  • Do you get angry a lot with your mate, even over small things?
  • Are you frequently sarcastic?
  • Are you having an affair, or is there a history of affairs in your relationship?
  • Do you tend to focus on your mate’s shortcomings or bad traits more than his/her good traits?
  • Do you berate your spouse for making mistakes, or do you use mistakes as leverage against him/her?
  • Do you have the tendency of pushing away intimacy and closeness when it’s offered to you, but then wanting it when it’s not offered?
  • Have you been accused by your partner of being emotionally unavailable, remote or hard to be close to?
  • Do you have a difficult time trusting?
  • Do you tend to be emotionally hidden in your relationship, fearing that you’ll be discovered as somehow inadequate or fraudulent?
  • Do you have a fear of being controlled or of losing your identity in this relationship?
  • Do you have a fear of getting rejected, abandoned or betrayed in this relationship?
  • Do you tend to put your mate in second or third position a lot?
  • Are you very critical or judgmental of your spouse?
  • Do you take constructive criticism from your mate poorly?
  • Do you tend to get mean, punishing or vindictive when you’re upset?
  • Do you have a pattern of not giving your relationship a whole lot of effort?
  • Do you have a pattern of withdrawing or emotionally withholding yourself a lot?
  • Do you lament not being close friends with your partner?
  • Do you drink too much, watch too much TV, worry too much or have an addiction to any substance or potentially harmful behavior?
  • Do you sometimes push your partner away because you don’t wish to be dependent or beholden?
  • Do you feel the future of your relationship is hopeless?
  • Do you tend to be conflict avoidant, avoiding issues or conflicts instead of addressing them?
  • Is trust an issue in this relationship?
  • Have you lost affection, romance or passion with your partner?
  • Do you have the vague sense that you repeatedly sabotage love?
Scoring: Total your answers. 
 
If you score 40 or under, your relationship may be able to improve, but you’re generally doing well.
If you score between 41-60, your relationship is distressed but appears very treatable.
If you score between 61-75, your relationship is highly distressed, but is still treatable.
If you score 76 or above, your relationship is in trouble and needs help immediately. Call for a free phone consultation now.

 

Colorado Marriage Retreats
Neil Rosenthal with a lemur

If  your relationship is distressed or in trouble, come to Colorado for a 2-5 day intensive marriage therapy retreat, and let’s figure out how to save your marriage.  This is  a marriage intervention–designed for the two of you to communicate, work through conflicts and be able to reconnect and feel closer. When your relationship is in trouble, weekly therapy often isn’t enough. If you’ve tried therapy before and are still stuck, this is for couples who need something that works. If your marriage is under threat, do this first!

Learn how to…

  • Repair what’s wrong in your relationship
  • Break through emotional distance and reconnect with each other
  • Communicate effectively
  • Resolve conflicts
  • Reduce anger, arguments, withdrawal and mean-spirited comments
  • Recover from infidelity
  • Begin to heal trust
  • Put romance and passion back in the relationship
  • Learn how to help your marriage
  • Learn how to fix a broken relationship
  • Regain closeness and intimacy
  • Learn the tools and skills in order to communicate effectively and resolve conflicts on your own

Before you give up on your relationship, try this! Call me today at (720) 331-5564 for a complimentary phone consultation.

Get expert help to rebuild connection, trust and intimacy.  In just a few days, accomplish what often takes months in weekly therapy. 2-5 days of a retreat can often do what 6-12 months of therapy can’t.

If you are a couple–married or not–I’d like to invite you to Colorado for a 2-5 day relationship retreat that will likely be the most important step you take to repair your marriage—all against the backdrop of one of the most picturesque spots in North America. Afterwards you are invited to extend your stay to go into the mountains, which are literally 25 minutes away from my office. It might even become a second honeymoon for the two of you.

What does it cost?

You get your choice of either 2, 3, 4 or 5 days. If you are wanting to renew your love or strengthen your relationship, come for 2 or 3 days. If you’re in crisis, or your relationship is in trouble–choose 3, 4 or 5 days–as many as you can afford, because you don’t want our retreat to end until we’ve repaired everything we can.

  • Two 6-hour days: $4,800
  • Three 5-hour days: $6,000
  • Three 6-hour days: $7,200
  • Four 5-hour days: $8,000
  • Four 6-hour days: $9,600
  • Five 5-hour days: $10,000
  • Five 6-hour days: $12,000

If you’re unsure how many days and/or hours you need, I will be happy to offer you a recommendation once I learn a little bit about your relationship.

It’s never too late to fall back in love.

It’s never too late to repair what’s wrong and create the close, connected relationship you want.

Call me today at (720) 331-5564 for a complimentary phone consultation.

Unlike other couples therapy enterprises that connect you with less-qualified phone operators and bounce you around, when you call my office, you’ll speak to me. I work directly with couples from start to finish, so you don’t have to repeat your story multiple times, and you can decide right away whether I’m a good fit for you.

This is much quicker than marriage counseling sessions

marriage retreats Colorado

An intensive weekend or weekday retreat offers you the opportunity to repair hurt, anger, lack of communication, breaches of trust or disconnection much more rapidly than weekly marriage counseling sessions. Each day of the retreat lasts 5 or 6 hours, and we will all decide when we want to break for lunch. A 3–5 day retreat is roughly equivalent to 5–12 months of weekly marriage counseling appointments, and I have found it to be so much more effective because there are no week to week diversions, and we have the time to get right down to the core of the issues—and then create solutions to those issues. For a relationship in crisis, or when you’re simply not getting along, it’s a remarkably quicker way to repair what’s wrong.

Couples frequently lose their closeness, their friendship, the excitement of being together and their passion for each other. Conflicts, disagreements, hurtful words, angry fights, threats, betrayals of trust and emotional withdrawal begin to damage the closeness and the connection between the couple that was once extremely close and connected.

One of the most positive results of a marriage retreat is the renewal of closeness, the regeneration of connection and the reopening of communication channels. I will guide you to learn and practice powerful ways of effectively communicating with each other, as well as indispensable techniques in how to resolve conflicts, disagreements or hurt feelings. Our goal is for your relationship to regain the connection, trust and closeness you once had, and to strengthen the bond between the two of you.

I have two main goals during your couples retreat. The first is to help the two of you regain your closeness and connection. The second is to teach you what I’m doing so you can take these skills home with you—and hopefully you won’t need additional professional help for married couples in the future.

Marriage retreats (also known as a marriage intensive, marriage counseling retreat, marriage refresh, or marriage boot camp) lasts between 2-5 days. The length of your retreat will depend on the severity of the issues in your relationship and how much time you can spend in Colorado.

What does a marriage therapy retreat include?

marriage intensives ColoradoThe specifics of your marriage therapy retreat will be customized to the issues or conflicts in your relationship, and as a result, every couples retreat is unique. This is a private retreat only for the two of you—I do not do group therapy sessions. We might work on communication, conflict resolution, trust, learning more effective ways of expressing anger or hurt, affection and romance—to name a few. But a marriage retreat, relationship retreat  or marriage intensive will offer you assistance with specific problems or emotions unique to your relationship. The goal is to eliminate or reduce the power of those issues, and to forge agreements between the two of you so that those issues are reduced or eliminated entirely. Food and lodging are not included in the price. See schedule for some of the activities that are often included in the retreat.

Each person will also receive a complimentary copy of my nationwide #1 bestselling book that has become the definitive marriage do-it-yourself manual on improving your relationship: Love, Sex and Staying Warm: Creating A Vital Relationship. This book has become like a bible for people interested in improving their relationship skills, or who seek couples intensives, relationship assistance or advice. There is also a working lunch built into the retreat, where all three of us go out (or order in).

Why not go to regular Marriage Counseling?

1. You need more intensive counseling in order to help stabilize your relationship.

There may be several reasons for this. It may be that you’re trying to recover from an affair or any other betrayal of trust. It may be that you’re caught in repetitive arguing or conflict that you can’t get out of. It may be that there is so much anger in your relationship that you can’t talk about and resolve issues anymore. It may feel that you are headed toward a divorce/break-up if you don’t do something fast, effective and in-depth.

2. You don’t live in the Denver area and repeated sessions over time would be too difficult or expensive.

More than 50% of the couples who do my marriage counseling retreat come from out of town, and most typically stay at one of the nearby hotels.

3. One (or both) of you are not sure you want to remain together, but you need to co-parent or work together.

In this case, you must learn how to talk, negotiate and deal effectively with each other.

4. Trust has been ruptured and you need it repaired quickly.

You may not have the luxury of going to couples counseling for months on end to fix what’s wrong. You may need a more intensive marriage therapy retreat in order to more quickly repair what’s broken.

How is this different from a Marriage Workshop or Marriage Conference?

Couples Therapy Intensives

Private, personalized attention

In a marriage workshop or couples workshop, you have 5, 10 or more couples attending at the same time. Everyone gets the same approach and the same exercises, regardless of what issues brought you in there, and it could be very embarrassing to talk openly about the issues in your relationship in a large group of people. In a Colorado Marriage Retreat, it will only be the two of you—there will not be any other couples present—and you will receive my personal, undivided attention the entire time. All the skill-building activities will be hand-tailored to you. This will be your own private retreat, exclusively for the two of you. This kind of couples retreat will enable you to repair major issues or conflicts quickly, effectively and privately.

Master instruction in effective relationship skills and/or how to repair your relationship

I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, and I have been in practice since 1980. My relationship advice has appeared in newspapers around the world. Learn more about my experience and qualifications →

Research shows the techniques are effective

The techniques I use from Imago Therapy have been scientifically shown to be effective. You don’t want to leave your relationship to chance.

What if we’re getting along well—or not married?

A couples retreat is not always centered around conflicts or disagreements. Frequently couples come because they want to deepen the connection and intimacy in their relationship, and an intensive couples therapy retreat offers the opportunity for closeness far more quickly than weekly couples counseling appointments can.

A couples retreat also makes a perfect gift for pre-marital couples, for newlyweds, or for long-married couples desiring to strengthen the connection, closeness and intimacy in their relationship. For non-married couples, a couples counseling retreat offers the same benefits as it does for married couples—if not more—since the best time to prevent any issue is before it starts.

This is equally effective for non-married couples or same sex couples.

Can I expect lasting positive change from Colorado Marriage Retreats?

That’s my intent. One way the two of you can help yourselves achieve that end is to create a list of goals you would like me to assist you in fixing, changing or resolving. Bring these goals into the first session, so that I can address your intentions throughout the entire marriage retreat. I may also guide the two of you to create a shared vision for the future of your relationship.

Not sure if a marriage retreat is right for you?

Call me for a complimentary consultation:

(720) 331-5564

  • We were separated, and I had filed for divorce, but we put the divorce on hold so we could attend Neil Rosenthal’s marriage counseling retreat in Colorado. We both considered this our one last final hope. If this didn’t work, we were not going to stay together.

    We don’t fight like many other couples do. Our house just turned cold. We quit sharing feelings with each other. Then we quit hugging or kissing in the mornings and evenings—or in bed. Soon we would be on our devices when in the same room with each other. Eventually we just grew very far apart. There was no fight, but we were no longer a close couple. So I moved out.

    When Neil first asked us why we were there and what we were hoping to achieve, I was unable to answer. I was not sure if I wanted to reinvest in the relationship and open myself up again. But through the course of the long weekend, we reunited as a couple. The turning point was when Neil gave us an exercise in creating a vision of our future, and that’s when I realized that I really want this woman and this relationship.

    This was priceless to me. There will be no divorce. Thank you Neil.

  • I was afraid we were going to divorce.

    We had an ongoing trust issue related to my husband’s infidelity. Nothing we tried succeeded in repairing us, and the issue dragged on forever. We were a broken couple, fighting a lot, and our fights could get ugly. As a last ditched effort, we signed up for a 3-day marriage retreat with Neil Rosenthal, whose book we both found very useful.

    The first thing we learned was to talk and listen effectively. Beyond doubt that was the most valuable thing of all. My husband finally heard how hurt and fearful I was, and with Neil’s help he was able to empathize with my pain, which allowed me to finally begin to let go of the grievances I had been carrying around for months.

    We are back on track. Healing takes time, but our marriage has finally stabilized. I can’t thank Neil enough for the highly skilled way he got us to reconnect.

  • I was resistant to opening up to someone I had never met.

    I have always been a private person, and the idea of opening up to a stranger was hard for me to accept. But Neil was easy to talk with, and our time flew by quickly as we did a variety of communication and intimacy enhancing exercises.

    We are now better at addressing an issue when we don’t agree with each other, or where she feels one way and I feel another way. Perhaps the most valuable was being able to talk respectfully and civilly with each other after years of not being able to.

    And best of all, my wife and I are making love again, after 2+ years of enduring the cold silent treatment. I would highly recommend Neil Rosenthal to any struggling couple who hasn’t been able to fix things on their own.

  • I had called off our engagement because my fiancé didn’t want sex as often as I did. I told her if we don’t make love more often, there will be no wedding.

    Turns out, we had an underlying problem of not being able to effectively talk about and resolve important issues. We didn’t have the right skill set. But Neil taught us how to work through disagreements rather seamlessly. Better yet, he taught us his method and gave us a handout about the different steps involved, so we could do the advanced skills at home. (Hint—it’s in his book.)

    Neil was very direct with us, and easy to talk with. We went right after the problem, and we solved it. Then he led us to strengthen our connection so we could be closer. Problem solved.

  • First of all, Thank you.

    There is a True, mutual desire to be the couple we once were, and so much more. We both feel a loss that you are not a permanent part of our lives. For you to have had such a profound role in our healing, and your kind ability to draw out the path to our healing, has not only opened the door to our love, but given us both a great appreciation for the love you showed us. We are newly committed to a lifetime of understanding, growth, and love.

    With sincere love and thanks from Alaska.